You only cry for help if you believe there is help to cry for. Wentworth Miller

[PeakFish]

I never understood the suggestion that mental health, depression, anxiety, feeling suicidal etc. are a cry for help or attention seeking in some way. For me Wentworth Miller’s quote rings completely true, I felt that nobody could help me, so why would I reach out to anyone as the only thing I would gain from that would be becoming even more of an outsider than I already felt I was.

It was more important to me to hide what was really going on, so that people would assume I was fine. I wanted to deal with everything behind closed doors, hide my shame, hide what I thought was my failure. I had always come across as the strong one, the one that was never phased by anything, I wanted people to continue to think that so badly it got to the point where I was almost living a double life. The things that were going on in my head were concerning, and definitely suggested a need for help, but I just couldn’t. I couldn’t admit that something was wrong that maybe I was mentally suffering, it would have been an acceptance of weakness for me, I wanted to believe that if I could just keep pretending that I was fine, that I would be. Like some kind of strange Halo Effect.

Needless to say that didn’t work, and I ended up eventually seeking help and talking to someone about the thoughts I was having. This was after almost 5 years of struggling in silence, and even then it took me almost 6 months from having decided to talk to someone, to getting myself into that room. Even now, I haven’t been able to muster up the courage to go back, even though a part of me desperately wants to. I still struggle with those feelings of shame, of being a failure because my brain seems to slip into depressive thoughts so easily when all I want is to try and be positive. That’s why I have this blog, it’s my outlet, my alternative to talking about it vocally, because that’s still such a difficult topic to broach.

So, don’t assume that people who are struggling with mental battles are seeking attention in any capacity. You don’t know how long they have been suffering, you don’t know how much courage it might have taken that person to simply get to where they are.

Be kind to all and you won’t mistake the good ones for the so few that are faking.

Wentworth Miller

[pekki]

Depression does not only mentally destroy your spirit, but also physically hurt your body, I think u might walk outside and be closer to nature. Sunshine and fresh air do help u to calm down and remind of positive things.

[vitovan]

Did you write this? If not, it would be inapproporaite to publish the full article here.

https://justolive.blog/2019/11/25/you-only-cry-for-help-if-you-believe-theres-help-to-cry-for/

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[PeakFish]

@vitovan 我想这里记录一下

[shm7]

年轻人需要与他人多进行连接，特别是脱离学校体制的时候。一点点微薄而我自己却也做得不好的意见。

我一直觉得互助会是一个非常好的形式。

[PeakFish]

@vitovan 我打不开水深火热 大佬

[PeakFish]

@vitovan 大佬给加个水深火热的权限吧 [渴望]

[PeakFish]

@vitovan 大佬我进不去水深火热

[vitovan]

@PeakFish 爱莫能助啊同学 😂😂😂